As I sit here on this beautiful Sunday, 7 hours deep into a study session for my PE exam, I’m reminded of one of the most important lessons I’ve learned over the past few years:
True balance in life is NOT possible.
At least not in the short-term.
One of the questions I get asked often (especially from newly married guys or those with babies on the way) is, “How do you balance everything?” By everything, they mean wife, kids, finances, health, career, side hustle, content, etc.
Truth is, I don’t.
To achieve something big, I believe you have to be obsessed with it. You have to dedicate the majority of your time, energy, and resources to that one thing. Even if it’s just for a brief period of time. When you do that, the other areas of your life have to take a backseat.
When I did my physique competition, I was obsessed with getting the most out of my workouts, dialing in my meals, and completing all of my cardio sessions.
When I quit engineering to pursue fitness full-time, I was obsessed with creating helpful content, managing my online clients, and filling up my schedule with personal training sessions.
Right now, I’m obsessed with studying for my PE exam so I can take the next step in my career.
What about family, you ask?
Family is my glass ball.
To paraphrase from one of my favorite books, The One Thing:
Imagine life is a game in which you’re juggling five balls...(I’ll call them career, side hustle, content, gym, and family)...One day you finally come to realize that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the family ball is made of glass. If you drop it, it will be irrecoverably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.